I can’t believe my sweet baby boy is a month old today. This has been the best month of my life. It scares me how fast it is going by.
A lot has happened in a month: c-section recovery, Oliver’s weight gain problems and my transition into motherhood. Luckily, my husband was home with me for the first 4 weeks. I don’t think I could have done it without him.
Coming home from the hospital was amazing. After 6 nights I was ready! I was on such a high. The lack of sleep had not caught up to me yet. Everyone had told me how hard having a newborn was and the first couple weeks I didn’t understand. It was a piece of cake! I was on cloud nine with my perfect baby.
My high slowly wore off around week 2 and the reality sunk in. I was tired. I was still in a lot of pain from my c-section. And taking care of a newborn who is feeding every two hours on top of that pain wasn’t fun.
At Oliver’s two week doctors appointment he had still not reached his birth weight. He lost 10% in the hospital, I am assuming because he was a magnesium baby. This week we were at the doctors office every other day to make sure he was able to gain. I saw the lactation consultant again which was super helpful. I’ve been seeing her about once a week to keep up with his weight gain.
Finally at three weeks, he hit his birth weight and at four weeks he surpassed 8 pounds! It is a huge relief.
At four weeks Daddy went back to work and things got a lot harder. Having the baby by myself is hard and I am still getting use to it. I am trying to get into a routine. Oliver sleeps a lot less than he use to and cries when I put him down, so now doing just about anything is extremely hard. Most days I just let the house go and enjoy the cuddles.
Thinking about leaving him in a month terrifies me. I am trying to make the most of the time I have left on my maternity leave because no amount of time off would ever be near enough.
The nights are long, but the years are short.”
Things I’ve learned about Motherhood-
- Motherly instincts are real, listen to them!
- You don’t know how much you can love until you have a child
- Recovery takes WAY longer than I had expected. It has now been a month after my c-section and I am still in pain. C-Sections are major surgeries and it takes a long time to heal.
- Parenting isn’t 50/50 – no matter how hard you try, being the mom means you give more. You give more physically and mentally. We were made this way for a reason.
- Mom guilt is a thing
- You learn that the baby comes first- which means I’ve eaten a lot of cold meals and went a little too long without showering
- You will get frustrated. Take a couple minutes to let that shit go.
- Days go by way too fast. Enjoy every moment.
- Things don’t go as planned and simple things like going to the doctor take a lot more time now
- Learn to love your body. It may never go back to what it was, but it gave me the greatest blessing of my life- my son.
- There’s many things in my life that I am proud of, but nothing beats being a mom
*** Also, thank goodness for snapchat filters that hide the bags under my eyes
Life saving baby products-
- Baby Bouncer
- Baby Swing
- Boba Wrap
- Velcro Swaddles
- Sound Machine
- Gripe Water
- AMAZON PRIME
A few things that have also helped the past few weeks-
Babywise- I wish I read this before Oliver’s arrival
Babes and Babies Podcast + Facebook page
The Wonder Weeks App